Planning a Gay Stag Do

Planning is key to a successful and memorable gay stag do. This is what eliminates the stress and worry from the event itself. If you get the planning right, the whole day or weekend will be a lot more fun. There are two big things you should focus on to ensure the rest of the planning and the event goes as smoothly as possible.

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Choosing the Right Destination

The destination sets the tone for the entire celebration. Consider selecting a location that is LGBTQ+ friendly, offering a vibrant and accepting atmosphere. You don’t have to go to “The Gay Capital City of _____” to have a good time, though. Here are a few quick tips to guide your choice:

  • Decide on how flamboyant you and the party are going to be. If you’re a quiet bunch of mutual friends, just about any destination will do. If you’re going to be “out, out,” then you should probably pick a destination where the culture is known to be friendly to gay parties.
  • You can try to balance the friendliness of the local cultural options with the amount of stuff to do. While you might just do “normal” things for most of the time, if you want to plan some events at specific gay clubs or attractions, make sure there are enough of them at your destination.

We love Budapest as a stag do destination. There’s culture, accommodation, and a vibrant nightlife scene. Here are two articles to stoke your excitement about the beautiful capital on the Danube:


Researching LGBTQ+ Friendly Venues and Activities

Once you’ve chosen the destination, it’s time to research LGBTQ+ friendly venues and activities. Look for bars, clubs, restaurants, and attractions that are known for their inclusivity and open-mindedness on the gay scene. Here are a few ways to make this search easier:

  • Ask your closest friends and local community for help. Everyone likes giving advice, so just ask.
  • Check out online discussion groups like Facebook groups, Reddit threads, and popular Instagram pages.
  • Check in with your hotel or accommodation. Their local knowledge could be the most valuable.

Of course, most stag do companies will also be able to offer you good advice. They know the best places to go locally because they take parties there every day or every week. 

Unique Ideas for Gay Stag Do Activities

A gay stag do should be filled with fun and exciting activities that cater to everyone’s interests. We know these aren’t actually that much different from any other stag do. You can drink, play paintball, and dress up with the best of the boys. But let’s try to think of some unique activities for your gay stag party.

  • Wine or cocktail tasting: Arrange a private tasting session at a local winery or cocktail bar, accompanied by delicious snacks.
  • Drag queen workshops: Organise a workshop where the group can learn the art of drag from talented performers. Even if drag isn’t your thing, a drag brunch will be a lot of fun!
  • Gentlemen’s afternoon tea: Plan a chill afternoon with fancy dress and top-quality refreshments. This is a great party activity for the day after a huge night out on the gay scene.
  • Don’t shy away from outdoor activities. Instead, glam them up. Go paintballing in fancy dress if it suits your group or take the entire stag party for an abseiling session for an adventurous party activity.

There really aren’t any limits on what you can plan providing you pay attention to the local culture and environment. Craft a memorable night and cross a few things off your bucket list. Most places will be fine, but be a little careful if you’re thinking of somewhere known to be resistant to LGBTQ+ lifestyles. 

Nightlife and Entertainment

The nightlife and entertainment scene plays a crucial role in a gay stag do. Here are some recommendations for LGBTQ+ friendly bars, clubs, and entertainment options.

  • Bar hopping: Explore the local LGBTQ+ scene by visiting a variety of bars and clubs that cater to diverse tastes.
  • Themed parties: Attend or organise a themed party at a LGBTQ+ friendly venue, allowing everyone to dress up and have a fantastic time.
  • Drag shows and cabaret performances: Enjoy spectacular performances by talented drag queens and entertainers, showcasing their artistry and creativity.

Accommodation and Travel Options

Choosing LGBTQ+ friendly accommodations ensures a comfortable and inclusive stay for the entire group. Consider the following options for your stag do accommodation:

  • LGBTQ+ Friendly Hotels and Guesthouses: Look for hotels and guesthouses that explicitly state their LGBTQ+ friendliness. These establishments understand the unique needs of LGBTQ+ travellers and provide a safe and welcoming environment for everyone.
  • Renting Private Properties for Group Stays: Renting a private property, such as a villa or a vacation home, can offer a more intimate and personalised experience. It allows the group to have their own space and create a home away from home during the celebration.

Ensuring smooth transportation for the entire group is essential. Pay attention to these considerations when organising transportation for the gay stag. We can’t think of any reason why travel should be too different, but ask some friends for advice if you have any concerns.

Food and Dining Experiences

Indulging in delicious food and dining experiences is an essential part of any celebration. Consider these options for a memorable culinary journey and some calmer stag activities.

  • LGBTQ+ Friendly Restaurants and Cafes – Discover LGBTQ+ friendly restaurants and cafes that offer a diverse range of cuisines. These establishments provide a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere, allowing the group to savour delectable dishes while enjoying each other’s company.
  • Catering Options for Group Events – If you’re planning a private event or gathering, consider hiring a catering service that specialises in LGBTQ+ celebrations. They can create customised menus that cater to various dietary preferences and ensure a delightful culinary experience for everyone.

Tips for Staying Safe During the Celebration

The world is a much safer place than many people think. With a bit of common sense and wise planning, you will avoid most problems. The most important thing to get right is your destination. Since you’re planning a gay stag do, avoid countries where they still execute people for homosexuality (we see you Yemen and Iran!). Beyond that, here are some simple tips to keep you safe.

  • Stay together: Encourage the group to stick together and look out for one another, especially when exploring unfamiliar surroundings.
  • Know emergency contact information: Keep a list of emergency contact numbers, including local authorities and medical services, readily available.
  • Use trusted transportation services: Opt for licensed taxis or ridesharing services to ensure safe and reliable transportation throughout the celebration.
  • Be aware of local laws and customs: Familiarise yourself with the local laws and customs to avoid any unintentional misunderstandings or conflicts.

Research LGBTQ+ support networks in the destination you’ll be visiting. These organisations can provide valuable resources, information, and support, should any issues or concerns arise during the stag do.

Personalising the Stag Do

Personal touches and preferences make a gay stag do even more meaningful. Here are some ideas to personalise the celebration for the groom-to-be and the group.

  • Photo collages and memory boards – Create collages or memory boards featuring memorable moments, funny anecdotes, and heartfelt messages to celebrate the groom-to-be.
  • Surprise messages and videos – Collect surprise messages and videos from friends and loved ones who couldn’t attend the stag do, and share them during the celebration to create an emotional and joyous atmosphere.
  • Customised merchandise – Consider creating customised T-shirts, hats, or other merchandise to commemorate the gay stag do. It’s a fun way to show unity and create lasting mementos.

These really aren’t much different from any other stag do or party. Contact a party store or event planner for even more ideas.

Respect and Etiquette

Respect and etiquette are crucial to ensuring a harmonious and inclusive celebration. Here’s how you can promote respect and create a safe space for everyone involved.

  • Set ground rules – Establish clear guidelines that promote respect, inclusivity, and acceptance for all attendees. Communicate these guidelines to the group and encourage adherence throughout the celebration. A few good, clear stag do rules could help everyone.
  • Educate the group – Raise awareness about LGBTQ+ issues and provide resources that can help attendees better understand and support the community.
  • Address any inappropriate behaviour – If any inappropriate behaviour occurs during the stag do, address it promptly and assertively to maintain a respectful and inclusive environment.

Budgeting and Financial Considerations

Planning a gay stag do involves financial considerations. But it’s not different from any other stag do. We’ve written three articles to help you manage your finances. Check these out to find some useful tips:

Photography and Documentation

Capturing the memorable moments of the gay stag do is essential. Here are some tips for documenting the celebration.

hoto collages and memory boards - Create collages or memory boards featuring memorable moments, funny anecdotes, and heartfelt messages to celebrate the groom-to-be.

Hiring Professional Photographers for the Event

Consider hiring professional photographers to capture the special moments throughout the stag do. They can ensure high-quality photographs that will be cherished for years to come.

Creating a Memorable Photo Album or Video

Compile the photographs and videos from the stag do into a memorable photo album or video. This will serve as a beautiful keepsake and a reminder of the joyous celebration.

Maintaining Privacy

Respecting the privacy of all attendees is crucial during a gay stag do. You might be comfortable with your LGBTQ+ status, but there could be a few mates who are not so comfortable. It’s a good idea to speak to everyone privately to make sure you know where they stand. Here are two things to do:

  1. Communicate privacy expectations – Discuss privacy concerns with the group and establish guidelines on what can and cannot be shared on social media or with others.
  2. Manage social media and online presence – Encourage attendees to be mindful of what they post on social media to protect everyone’s privacy. Consider creating a shared album for group photos instead. 

We know it can be a sensitive subject. So, try to approach everyone with kindness and ensure they feel included and supported. Maybe some people don’t get invited or you plan an alternate stag do for a group that might be less comfortable. For some options, check out our article “Who Should I Invite to My Stag Do?”

FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)

How do I choose the perfect destination for a gay stag do?

Choosing the perfect destination involves considering factors such as LGBTQ+ friendliness, vibrant LGBTQ+ scenes, and available activities and entertainment options. Research popular LGBTQ+ destinations and read reviews from the LGBTQ+ community to make an informed decision.

What if some attendees have different preferences for activities or venues?

It’s important to respect everyone’s preferences and create a diverse itinerary that caters to different interests. Discuss with the group and try to find a balance that allows everyone to have a memorable experience.

How can I ensure the safety of the group during the stag do?

Encourage the group to stick together, know emergency contact information, use trusted transportation services, and familiarise yourselves with local laws and customs. It’s also wise to have travel insurance that covers any unexpected situations.

PRO TIP:If you are in an Anti-LGBTQ+ country, I’d be very wary of disclosing your sexuality to anybody who you don’t know. You never know who you’re talking to and who might be listening.

How can I make the stag do more personal and meaningful for the groom-to-be?

Incorporate personal touches and preferences, such as surprise messages and videos from loved ones, customised merchandise, and photo collages or memory boards. These elements will make the celebration even more special for the groom-to-be.

What if unexpected changes or cancellations occur during the stag do?

Having a contingency plan in place and staying flexible will help you navigate unexpected circumstances. Embrace the opportunity for new experiences and focus on creating lasting memories, regardless of any changes to the original plan.

TRAVEL TIP:If you are on any medications, even for your transition, you should keep everything in the original container. Also, make sure the medications you need are legal in the country where you are headed.


Planning a gay stag do is an exciting journey filled with love, joy, and celebration. By considering the unique needs of the LGBTQ+ community and fostering an inclusive environment, you can create a truly unforgettable experience for the groom-to-be and the entire group. From choosing LGBTQ+ friendly destinations and venues to organising fun activities, accommodations, and transportation, every aspect of the celebration should reflect the values of inclusivity and respect. So gather your friends, embrace the love, and create memories that will last a lifetime!

Veronika Tomasikova

Stag expert since 2019 Veronika has dedicated herself to exploring and sampling all the adrenaline-filled activities, bars and clubs to ensure only the best make the cut! With over 3100 Bachelor Parties organised her know-how guarantees an Epic trip!