To avoid any frustration in creating your speech, we’ll show you how to:

  • Choose the right AI assistant
  • Create prompts that get the best results
  • Personalise your speech 

Time to put the robots to pen!

Hold on, can ChatGPT write a best man speech?

Sure! It might lack in personality and funny stories, though. So if you want to use AI, we’ve got some special tips and prompts to help you write a truly epic speech in no time.

The 7 Steps to Create an AI Best Man Speech

If you’re short on words, lacking inspiration, or just total rubbish at writing a speech that’s not snore-inducing, here are the exact steps you need to follow to let AI do the heavy lifting:

Step 1: Pick your AI platform

There’s a bonanza of AI tools ready to lend a hand! Some, like HyperWrite and Verble, are specifically designed for speech writing, while others, like Inflection, Gemini, Perplexity, and ChatGPT, are more multi-purpose and get the job done well too.

You can play around with a few and pick the one you prefer, or you can just go straight to ChatGPT like the other 180 million users. 

Step 2: Ask AI to help you get started

If you’re not sure how to ask AI to write a best man’s speech, you can do exactly that. 

In the text box where you enter prompts, ask, 

“How do I ask AI to write a best man speech?”

As a response, you’ll be asked to provide some details about the groom (and the bride), their relationship, any anecdotes or memorable moments you want to include, and if there’s a specific tone or style you want to use. 

Step 2: Ask AI to help you get started

You’ll also often get a template to follow to help you create better speech prompts, but this isn’t essential, as you can work in any order.

Step 3: Begin entering your prompts

With a basic idea of what you need to do, you can start giving AI your prompts.

Step 3: Begin entering your prompts

Examples of what you can prompt include:

“Best man’s speech inspired by Lord of the Rings, in the style of Gollem,  include an anecdote about how a wet cat led the couple to meet. Make it funny and heartwarming.”

“Formal best man speech including an all-ages appropriate jokes and advice for newlyweds.”

“Funny, heartwarming, personal best man speech in the style of Billy Connolly.”

You can also request speeches that suit different types of grooms, whether this ties in with their personalities or their interests. This helps the AI to tailor its results to suit you. 

You can also request speeches that suit different types of grooms, whether this ties in with their personalities or their interests. This helps the AI to tailor its results to suit you. 

For example, you can ask for a speech for:

  • A Gamer
  • Geek
  • Sports Fan
  • Shy Guy
  • Hedonist
  • Hopeless Romantic
  • Workaholic

Really, the options are endless, so you can be as creative as you like. Or at least as creative as suits the wedding.

Step 4: Get specific with your instructions

There are some elements that just about every best man’s speech needs, and these include:

  • An icebreaker.
  • A brief overview of your role in the groom’s life (e.g., friend, brother, best gay uncle, etc.).
  • A funny or heartwarming anecdote.
  • Advice and well wishes for the newlyweds.
  • Compliments to the bride, groomsmen and bridesmaids.
  • A final toast.

To get AI to add these elements, you can simply enter them into the prompt section. You don’t have to do them element by element either; the robots will work out where everything fits together. 

To get AI to add these elements, you can simply enter them into the prompt section. You don’t have to do them element by element either; the robots will work out where everything fits together. 

You’ll now have a pretty good speech that’s ticking all the boxes. But when you read it aloud, you notice something is missing. Maybe it’s not funny enough? 

Perhaps it doesn’t tie in with the wedding’s theme, or maybe it’s too risqué—or not risqué enough?

Tell AI what you want using prompts like:

  • Make it funnier
  • Add a quote about love
  • Include wisdom from an old married couple
  • Include reference to a beach/winter/seasonal theme
  • Make the advice risqué/sexier/cheekier

Step 5: Cut the cheese

At the end of the day, AI isn’t human, and it does have a propensity for being cheesy. And not just a mild gouda but full-on vieux-Boulogne on a sunny day.

So, go over your speech and look for those sprinklings of parmesan. Such as: 

They say that love is like a fine wine, it only gets better with age. And judging by the way these two look at each other, I’d say they’ve found themselves a couple of rare, vintage bottles.

Let’s sprinkle in a few more jokes to keep the laughter flowing like the tide. Today, as I look at him standing here, ready to embark on this incredible journey with [Bride’s Name], I couldn’t be prouder to call him my friend.

If any of the text made you cringe or groan, remove it! 

Step 5: Cut the cheese: At the end of the day, AI isn’t human, and it does have a propensity for being cheesy. And not just a mild gouda but full-on vieux-Boulogne on a sunny day.

Step 6: Check your timing

Calculating the length of a speech based on the text is not easy, so you need to get practicing. A good way to do this is to read your AI masterpiece out loud at the same pace you would on the wedding day and set the timer.

If it’s too short, tell AI to make it longer”. If it’s too long, tell AI to “make it shorter”.

You should get specific here with what you want to add or what you want to cut. For example:

“Include two more jokes and words of wisdom about married life”

“Remove a joke and any long descriptions”

Yikes. You did this, and now you no longer praise the bridesmaids. In fact, any mention of them has been obliterated. You’ll need to prompt this again to get them back in the speech. 

In fact, now’s a great time to revisit your checklist and ensure you’ve covered everything you wanted upfront.

PRO TIP:Ask the AI what was removed, and it should show you. This will save any red faces and unthanked bridesmaids. 

Step 7: Final touches

You’ve got your speech ready to go, you’ve ticked all the boxes on your list, and you’re convinced there won’t be a dry eye in the house. But it’s not quite long enough.

If this is the case, do yourself a favor and separate your text out and see where you can add to it. While most AI doesn’t have a word count limit, longer texts can hamper the system’s ability to generate a coherent or non-repetitive response. 

If you want a longer anecdote or to add a funny story about some of the mischief you got up to, consider creating a new prompt and then adding it to your speech. Or, if you think your final toast needs work, start a separate prompt and refine it this way.

You’ll have to do some tying together, but it beats writing a whole speech from scratch!

From Tongue Tied To Toastmaster

If you want to nail your role as best man, AI is your best friend. The trick is to refine your prompts and ensure that you cover all your bases.

Once you’re done, you should have a speech you’re proud of, the bride and groom will love, and the guests won’t fall asleep during. 

Veronika Tomasikova

Stag expert since 2019 Veronika has dedicated herself to exploring and sampling all the adrenaline-filled activities, bars and clubs to ensure only the best make the cut! With over 3100 Bachelor Parties organised her know-how guarantees an Epic trip!